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WANNA MAKE OUT?

Sex and sexual play are a process that starts with mutual attraction, affection, and interest.

There’s a lot of talk about consent, but where do you even start? Asking a simple question is the start of communicating your intentions. Sex isn’t just intercourse, so it’s important that open communication is a constant part of your sexual experience. It’s sexy to make your partner feel comfortable and heard. Making the initiation of sexual play through simple questions will both help your partner have the opportunity to express their desires, and help you understand what they are interested in. Allowing your partner to stop or start at any moment helps both people feel like they are having fun on their terms.

Sexy Questions ~

Can I kiss you here?

Questions show your interest in touching your partner. This can be a big turn-on!

May I softly touch your ____?

Specifically mentioning the way and location you would like to touch someone can be a sexy method of foreplay.

CONSENT

Consent is when you and your partner both agree and give each other permission to kiss, hug and touch each other. Without a clear “yes,” you do not have consent and sex should not happen.

Other examples and situations

• Silence and saying “I don’t know” are NOT CONSENT.

• Even in a long-term relationship, you should still say “yes” to what you want to do, and feel comfortable saying “no” to what you don’t. EVERY SINGLE TIME.

• Just because two or more people are dating does not mean that they are consenting to have sex.

• Remember: Everyone has the right to change their mind at ANY POINT — so if someone says, “Stop” you need to stop. Even if they said yes before, “stop” means STOP NOW.

• If someone feels pressured, threatened, intimidated, or fearful, they are not consenting.

• If a person is asleep or unconscious, they cannot consent. They are unable to consent.

• You can never assume by the way a person dresses, smiles, looks or acts, that they want to have sex with you.

• If a person has had sex in the past, it does not mean that they are consenting to have sex again.

• Even in marriage, a person should not assume they have consent for sexual activity. Marital rape is as serious as any other sexual assault.

• Alcohol is often used to make a target vulnerable and is also used by perpetrators to excuse their own actions.

• It is important to remember that sexual assault is never the survivor’s fault, regardless of whether they may have been intoxicated.